This is Charlie Chaplin at age 26, photographed 100 years ago. It’s believed he wrote the poem below at age 70.
As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is Authenticity.
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call this Respect.
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call this Maturity.
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call this Self-Confidence.
As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call this Simplicity.
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is Love of Oneself.
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is Modesty.
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it Fulfillment.
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection Wisdom of the Heart.
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing, new worlds are born. Today I know: This is Life!
If you’ve been around for some time, you’ve probably heard the phrase “yas queen.” … The meaning of yas queen, Uaccording to Urban Dictionary and pronounced YAAA-SSS-SSS kwEEn, is “a phrase used to express enthusiastic support, excitement, or congratulations for someone you love.”
Apparently there is a “mummy/mommy war” going on in blogger land. Some really nasty viscous attacks on stay at home mums and then stay at home mum’s defending their position. If I had a dollar for every time someone said to me when I was a stay at home mum of 5 kids, “so when are you going to get a job?” I’d be a very rich woman. I would like to know why society has decided that mothering and being a home maker has no value?
Some women choose to work because they love what they do and what they can contribute. Others work to help pay for mortgages and to be able to afford the lifestyle they like. Some just to keep their heads above water and put food on the table. Similarly some families choose to have the mother stay at home with the children because they can afford to do that. Others do it despite the fact that it puts financial strain on the family because they value being home for their children higher. All are valid.
Whether you choose to stay at home with your children, juggle work/home duties or choose the career woman path and have nannies and domestic help in the house that is your business. Do whatever suits your family and fits in with your life choices and values and don’t listen to anyone else. If someone is degrading you for your choices you can rest assured that they are not happy with their own. As with most criticism it is hurled at people by those that are unhappy in themselves.
If you are a career woman, good on you. I love that you have made the most of your opportunities and forged a path in a still male dominated domain and succeeded. If you juggle work/home duties I am in awe of you and appreciate how time poor you are and how organised you have to be.
If you are a stay at home mum don’t allow others ignorance and prejudices detract from the wonderful job you do, you do not need to justify yourself for your choice to stay at home with your children. It is a sad indictment on society that the raising of children has so little value put upon it.
Bravo to all women (and men) out there who are doing their best to raise well adjusted, well parented children who will grow up to be fully functioning adults who contribute to the world and not detract from it. I don’t care how you choose to do it, as long as it suits you and your family. All I ask is if you don’t choose to or are not able through circumstance to stay at home full time do not try to put guilt and shame on those that are full time care givers. Being a stay at home mum is a career choice, just not one that is financially rewarded.